“Don’t ask why the addiction, ask why the trauma”. - Dr. Gábor Mate
Did you know that part of your survival techniques has been important for taking care of the inner child that needs to heal?
Did you have parents that were there for you and gave you everything, yet you still felt neglected?
Did you have someone that you loved or were close to make you feel unloved, neglected or abused you? Did this create lasting trauma?
People can love you all they are capable of, but you can still feel unloved and unworthy.
Remembering the events of the past create more hurt and trauma than was truly present in the moment. You may not remember the whole situation, but you remember how the person, or the situation made you feel.
Trauma is not the events but the meaning you give to it. Every time something happens, you give it a meaning which creates guilt, shame, unworthiness, blame and trauma.
Several people suffer from trauma and turn to addictions to push down the feelings of neglect, shame, abandonment and more. They never had proper role models to show them communication and healthy relationships or boundaries. The greatest gift you can give yourself is the ability to heal from the past.
Learning to heal your inner child takes some self-exploration of feelings and emotions of what you needed the most in the moments of your trauma. Who did you need?
As you start to own your story, your story can no longer own you. You can start living your live without fear, anxiety and learning that you can truly love and heal yourself.
There becomes a point in life that holding on your past no longer serves your present. It keeps you stuck holding on to demons and chain’s keeps you stuck in the past.
Are you ready to release the clutches from the past and heal your inner child?
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Candace Grant holds a certificate in Neuro- Linguistic Programming and a certificate from Robbins Madanes Training for Coaching. Candace has had many years of wellness courses and has been on a path of shifting perspectives for the past 6 years. As a massage therapist for 25 years she understands the connection between the body and the mindset.